Putin Has No Love for Gay Athletes in Olympics

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NBC's coverage of the 2014 Winter Olympics , got a little political. Bob Costas sat down  with journalists  David Remnick and Vladimir Pozner, and addressed two separate but related issues that have loomed over this Olympics since the start;  athlete safety in Sochi, and what's Putin got against the gays? To make a short interview even shorter, the Olympics will be a success for Putin if no bombs go off. As for the "gay" issue quite frankly my dears, he doesn't give a damn. Seriously. David Remnick on Putin: "He is not a democrat. He has no interest in LGBT issues or human rights, all the things that are being discussed. He doesn't care that you care that much. What you may think is a downside is not of great concern to him, unless there's an incident of some kind." 

REALLY? Not interested in human rights? In June 2013, the Russian government banned the distribution of "gay propaganda" for the children's sake. This pretty much includes any type of pro-gay stance or display. no rainbow flags, no pride parades, no fashionable tees. Violators can be fined and jailed for up to 14 days. Then in July, Russia banned gay adoptions followed by a proposal to take away children from LGBT parents; that proposal was later withdrawn.

Despite the fact that I find any leader who isn't concerned about human rights morally repugnant, I can at least understand, on some level, that Putin has a lot on his plate. Perhaps he views human rights as a "soft" political issue, one best left for the shallow and extravagant Western culture.

 Political activist and Holocaust survivor, Elie Wiesel said, "the opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference." And this is what indifference breeds: a straight man who can beat up a gay man without fear of reprisal.

In 2012, vigilante groups began harassing and attacking gay people in cities all around Russia. At the same time, homophobic media campaigns began running on Russian state television. All the while, the Russian government claims that Russia is ok with gays,"as long as they leave children in peace." Seriously? Tanya Cooper, a Russia researcher at Human Rights Watch, tells the Huffington Post that, "the Russian authorities have the power to protect the rights of LGBT people, but instead they are ignoring their responsibility to do so."

So naturally, the Olympic board sends the world's finest to Sochi, Russia. There are over 4,500 athletes competing this month. Gay math tells me that 360 to 450 of them are LGBT (8% to 10% of the general population). They too have worked their whole lives for this moment. Shouldn't they have the right to share it with their loved ones, out in public if that's what they choose?

In an Olympic games where terrorists live right behind the mountainside, queer athletes have to worry about bombs AND homophobic violence. And who is supposed to watch out for them? The same police force that turns a blind eye to hate crimes every day. Ok *climbs down from the soap box.* 

I love sports, so I'll be watching the Winter Olympics. And I'll be eager to see how queer athletes fair in the the most tense Olympics the world has seen in a while. Oh one more thing.

USA!!!

Coca-Cola's Superbowl Ad Features Gay Dads

Last night Coca-Cola premiered a Superbowl ad that was awesome to some and horrific to others. During the second quarter, American families were briefly distracted from the absolute a** kicking of the Denver Broncos (I'm a Manning fan fyi) to a 60 second beautiful rendition of "America the Beautiful" sung in different languages.

Any rational human being would appreciate what the ad was trying to portray. The reality that America, and its anthems, do not belong to one type of American, but to a variety of citizens of all skin colors, who happen to speak other languages. And wait for it...... have different types of families just as valid as the mom and dad in the Cheerios commercial. Of course some others have an issue with this family too, but that type of disillusionment is so appalling its not worth the time of this Black queer woman married to a White queer woman with a biracial baby.

 "Honey that Black man is married to that White woman and their eating Cheerios!!" 

 Can't believe the "Race War" still rages on in the psyche of some Americans.

At the tail end of Coke's commercial came a scene of two men holding on for dear life as they teach their daughter to roller skate. Naturally this rattled the red, white, and blue off of some God fearing Americans, who still hold on to the notion that the Superbowl is a "family event," so no gays allowed!

Despite Coca-Cola's recent "Share a Coke" debacle, and continued sponsorship of the Olympics in Sochi, this is a refreshing acknowledgement that all types of families should be respected and drink Coke, I guess. While I applaud Coke's fearlessness to state the obvious, I'm not ready to extend my shiny rainbow of friendship to them just yet (can't share that with just anybody). Time will tell if if this was a statement from the heart, or a high profile placation to the gay community for all of their past missteps. For a good laugh, or cry, check out the Twitter firestorm the commercial caused on  E Online. 

Until the next inqueery, 

See ya'.

SheZow The 'Trans' Superhero Here to Destroy Your Straight Brain!

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Hey gang, I've been gone for a while.  Sorry.  But I'm back now and in FULL affect!  Lets proceed gayly forward shall we?  So we have finally done it.  Give yourselves a high five girlfriends, the gays have officially taken over the world because now we have a superhero in drag to confuse the minds of the children!

Nah.  Just kidding.  The first episode of SheZow premiered last night on hubnetwork.  If OneMillionMoms bothered to watch the show they would note that, as far as I can tell, Guy Hamdon is pretty much what his name implies, a ham of a guy.  The show opens with Guy and his bff Max skateboarding and terrorizing his older sister.  He discovers an old ring in the basement and transforms into SheZow, the town superhero.  With the help of his sister, a super computer named Sheila, and Max, Guy saves the world from a slue of cooky villains one lip gloss at a time. Check it out.

The important thing to note is that Guy likes being  a dude and identifies with maleness, and is initially mortified when he transforms into SheZow, until he discovers he has superpowers of course. Which means he is probably a boring cisgendered kid, who happens to wear a skirt and thigh high boots to fight crime on occasion.  What I think is truly radical about this show is its portrayal of a "normal" guy  finding fulfillment and empowerment through his female alter ego (which is probably scarier to some than actual transgender representation).   Even in the first episode, we can see a small evolution in Guy's attitude towards women.  I think, if done right, the show can do a few sheawesome things.

1) Give kids with non-conformist gender identities a character to relate to.  Not every girl wants to be My Little Pony and not every little boy likes Batman.  

2) Show that boys and girls have much more in common than we like to admit.  Yes our consumerist society has a great deal invested in the gendering and separation of the sexes.  Have you tried to shop for gender neutral toys or clothes for kids under 13 lately?  I triple dog dare you.  

3) Cause a little havoc on Elm Street when Billy decides to dress up like his fave superhero on Halloween.  

*Oh and by the way, this isn't the first, nor will it be the last time, that American television has showcased a male cartoon character in female wares.  Two words... Bugs Bunny.  If audiences could handle it in the 50's and 60's, surely we can learn to love one more awesome boy in a dress.  

Say it Ain't So Lindsay

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Lindsay Lohan has dodged another jail bullet.  On March 18th, she pleaded no contest to misdemeanor charges, relating to a June 2012 car crash, the  Los Angeles Times reports.  She has been sentenced to 90 days in rehab and 18 months of psychotherapy, along with 30 days of community service.  So what's new? Her arrest record is thicker than "War and Peace".  *Signal patriotic music*.  Well I'm an American,  and as an American I love to champion the underdog.  And my God if Lindsay Lohan isn't a hairless poodle in a dog show.   Now I know that a lot of  her troubles she's brought on herself.   But at the end of the drunken, drug induced, vehicular assault, mug shot day, I hope every time she enters rehab, she will emerge with a fresh perspective on life and a since of purpose for her career.  A few weeks ago, I was discussing Lohan with  some co-workers and had a serious“leave Lindsay alone” moment.  Everyone was like, “ dude why do you even like her?”  It took me a second, but I did come up with a few answers.  

Reason #1:  The girl can act.  She can be in a drug induced coma and still act circles around many of the actresses in Hollywood.  Check her stats.  These are a few of my adolescent faves.

Is she Elizabeth Taylor, no.  But she could be if she would only, “Just Say No”. 

 

Lohan and Samantha Ronson 

Reason #2: She came out before it was trending.  Lohan came out before Wanda Sykes, Ricky Martin, Jodie Foster and the wonderful Chely Wright.  She didn't do it on a stage, on the cover of "People" or have a coming out coach.  All she had was a few pics, a long term relationship and a statement.  

What I loved about her “outing” was that she was unapologetic about her sexuality. That took bravery.  And even though her girlfriend was criticized for being too old and too butch, she celebrated them in public.  That took class. 

Reason #3: We could all use more red heads in our lives.

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Its funny when queer folk hope, beg, demand for celebrities to come out of the closet and they emerge as a train wreck.  Now what do we do with them?  Do we only want/support them when they lead  good, wholesome queer lives?  Hell, can we afford for them not to?  I do believe that there is a pressure for queer celebrities to rise above the behaviors of their straight peers, although some may not want to recognize it.  Every public persona that represents a minority, whether they want to or not, carries that burden.  And the only way to ease that burden is for more representatives to step forward. A whole slue of celebrities have come out since Lohan, and perhaps one day fear of losing one's career because of sexual orientation will be no more.  Until we reach that point, I will continue to root for that freckled 90s kid with so much promise.  Because we're worth it.      

 

SPOTLIGHT: Meet "The Fosters"

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Its official! Despite the loud protests from One Million Moms and other "traditional" values groups, Jennifer Lopez's comedy-drama, The Fosters, aired its official trailer last week.  This groundbreaking series stars the fierce Teri Polo (The West Wing) and Sherry Saum (Rescue Me) as lesbian couple Stef and Lena.  The mixed-raced couple have a biological son and several adopted children.  On the first episode, the family's world is turned upside down when Lena invites a rambunctious runaway to live with them.

The historic nature of the series goes without saying.  But I'll say it anyways.  This is historic.  Multi-racial family depiction is slim, and never before has there been a series on American television centered exclusively on a two mom household.  This is also political.  Few television series get protested before they even have a season in the can.  One Million Moms had this to say about the series:

Obviously, ABC has lost their minds…[they've] approved a series pilot from Jennifer Lopez’s production company, Nuyorican, about a lesbian couple and their diverse family…ABC Family reported the comedy-drama pilot, working with the title “The Fosters,” is about two women raising a “21st century,” multi-ethnic mix of foster and biological kids.

While foster care and adoption is a wonderful thing and the Bible does teach us to help orphans, this program is attempting to redefine marriage and family by having two moms raise these children together.

As dangerous as two women raising children together sounds, its not nearly as insidious as the statement it will make every single episode: "Our families are the same as yours.  Our love is the same.  Our struggles are the same.  And if you don't want to give us a place at the table......we will make our own table.  Because we are good at that sort of thing."

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According to the trailer, the series seems to be more focused on the lives of the children, which is great because who wants to see a "very special" episode about the difficulty of having a same-sex household every week, downer.  I will be interested in how the show integrates the real issues faced by same-sex parents and the challenges of raising children in general.  Very early reviews of the series compares it to the mamma bear of family shows, 7th Heaven.  I wish it the same longevity and success.  Be on the look out for my review of the pilot in June, and please tune in.  In the midst of the real struggles that LGBT families face, true representation of our lives is the strongest weapon we have.  Use it. Support it.     

And a side note.  I want to give a shoutout to ABC Family's consistent support of non-traditional characters and families in general.  If you are not following this network, do because it is light years ahead in terms of queer representation and depiction of modern family life. Their slogan says it all:  "A New Kind of Family."  

                                                             
                                     And family is what its all about. 

Below are a few great shows to consider. 

"Switched"

"Baby Daddy"

"Secret Life of the American Teenager"

"Pretty Little Liars"

"Melissa and Joey"

 *Photos courtesy of abcfamily.com

Girl on Girl: Queer Sex in Adult Film

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We've been seeing each other for a while now, so I think its time we talked about sex.  Lesbian sex specifically and why its soooo hard to find.  After years of independent research *clears throat* and after countless conversations with my friends, I have categorized "Girl on Girl" into three categories: Hot, Really? and NEXT!. 

Too often one encounters the same stale images that pass for lesbian porn.  

Two women with long flowing hair, both heavily endowed, but thin, gaze at each other in a non-descriptive room.  

They kiss, timid at first but then more aggressively.  Girl 1 mounts Girl 2 and slides her long red fingernails (Really?) down the tout frame of Girl 2, who giggles. 

*THIS IS A PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT*

Anyone who truly "works" with their hands knows to watch the length and texture of their fingernails.  Remember women are like fine luxury cars...... DON'T scratch the interior.  Thank you.

Back to bad porn:

If the actresses are bold, they may engage in a little thunder down under (Hot), but most of the time the fingers do the talking and then, still too damn much, the shocked but forgiving boyfriend interrupts the ladies.  And now we prepare for the "real" deal (NEXT!).  

"Girl on Girl" means just that, two girls engaging in intimate acts designed, in my opinion, for the male heterosexual gaze.  Often these actresses are novices with female parts-- even their own, only brushing the surface of female eroticism, and pausing at awkward moments looking for cues from male directors. But have no fear queerlings, there are some queer adult film companies made for us by us, and they know what you want.  

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Pink and White Productions , the works of Courtney Trouble , the performers of Crash Pad, and the amateur films on Queer Porn TV are all excellent places to start the journey to ...... self realization.  But if you are like me, you might be wondering what makes Queer porn different from the run of the mill stuff your brother watches?  Autostraddle.com has a great piece on Feminist and Queer adult entertainment that explores the emphasis on ethics and gender non-conformity that separates these productions from mainstream "Girl on Girl".  

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Queer porn entrepreneur  Jiz Lee, tells Autostraddle.com, 

"There's a danger when porn is limiting in gender and sexual acts -- in an absence of other forms of explicit sex as education, a limited view starts to paint a portrait of what sex looks like, what people who have sex look like, etc... and a constrained example of sex negates MANY alternate and completely valid experiences of what sex is."

J-Bird of Crash Pad Series 

"The experiences I have had given me a new perspective on how ethical porn can be. It requires communication, consent, and respect. I love working with production companies where the performer has a lot of freedom to create their own scene, come as they are (ie: body hair, clothing (or not)) and there is a supporting environment around. That feels ethical and feminist to me." 

If you are looking for genuine queer images in adult entertainment, my greatest advice is to just explore.  Free your mind.  And try to let go of the traditional gender/sexual role play that you were taught even before you knew what sex was.  And above all Respect and enjoy. 

- Happy hunting.  

   

WellCast: Youth Oriented Video Talks Coming Out

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WellCast, an animated Internet show, explores physical, emotional and psychological paths to wellness.  The bi-weekly program covers a lot of wellness ground like dealing with depression, finding the perfect roommate and last week, how to come out.

Unfortunately, it seems WellCast is already catching a little heat for its coming out video.  Something about how it shouldn't be geared towards kids, the "gay agenda," blah blah blah.                                                                                                              

I think the video does a admirable job at confronting, consolidating and expressing what can be a very cumbersome topic.  The 5 steps to coming out are sound, realistic and just plain good advice. What is cool about the video, besides the quirky humor and clever animation, is its advocacy for coming out from a WELLNESS perspective. Words like, "There's nothing healthier and nothing braver than living openly as yourself," may seem obvious, but they do make an impact.  Queer people have always suspected, and in recent history have touted, that coming out is critical to one's mental and spiritual health.  But to have a mainstream publication support that view so matter-of-factly is worth talking about.

Do the world a favor and go to the WellCast Facebook page and voice your support for the video.  Also add a "thumbs up" on the YouTube page.  You should also check out their other videos.  The good people at WellCast just might know what they are talking about.  Besides, who couldn't use a little free therapy?